{"id":40356,"date":"2020-05-08T08:37:14","date_gmt":"2020-05-08T12:37:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.familytoday.com\/?p=40356"},"modified":"2020-05-07T18:24:10","modified_gmt":"2020-05-07T22:24:10","slug":"how-to-spark-interest-in-your-marriage-again","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.familytoday.com\/relationships\/how-to-spark-interest-in-your-marriage-again\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Spark Interest in Your Marriage Again"},"content":{"rendered":"

No one really thinks about how long \u201ctill death do us part\u201d is while taking their vows, but after some time being married, you will start to see just how long it really is. What a lot of couples don\u2019t realize that it\u2019s completely normal for a long term relationship or marriage to feel like the spark has burnt out.<\/p>\n

As your marriage grows over the years, those butterflies you once felt at the beginning may fly away, and that doesn\u2019t mean your love for your spouse or the marriage has died. \u201cThe first thing to realize about being in a long-term relationship is that it waxes and wanes,\u201d says relationship expert Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW. \u201cWhat you feel in the beginning is impossible to sustain.\u201d Kelli says that if you understand this concept it will lessen the pressure to feel deeply in love all of the time.<\/p>

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If your marriage is in need of its spark re-ignited, think about trying to incorporate these practices to spark interest back into your marriage.<\/p>\n

Prioritize your marriage.<\/h3>\n

Your marriage should always be high priority, but sometimes life happens and it can become a couple\u2019s last priority. Making time to connect with your spouse every day is going to be key when trying to reignite that spark. Whether this time is in the morning, afternoon, or evening, being able to unplug from the chaos of every day life and be fully engaged with your partner creates healthy intimacy. Talk with your spouse and find a time in the day that allows you to be present with each other. When you find this time, protect it and make sure it\u2019s done.<\/p>\n

Take a trip down memory lane.<\/h3>\n

Revisiting sweet memories that you share with your spouse is a great way to bring back the fuzzy sensation you may be desiring. Talking about how you met your spouse, sharing stories or thoughts from the first date you had with them, even making a special trip to place you met, had your first date or even got engaged at, will help remind you both why you love each other. If you and your partner have been together for many years, there has to be memories you both may have forgotten from earlier in your relationship. Spend some time talking about your favorite moments and memories that you share together.<\/p>

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Show your spouse some TLC.<\/h3>\n

Sometimes all you need to ignite that spark in your marriage is to show your spouse some tender loving care. Physical touch is significant part of restoring physical and emotional intimacy in your marriage. Hug your partner, hold their hand, offer to give them a massage. You will instantly feel connected with your partner, and the passion and desire you once share will be restored. Intimacy doesn\u2019t necessarily mean run to the bedroom, but by all means do that too. Although removing the pressure of sex can help rekindle romance and connection, reviving your sex life is also a good idea.<\/p>\n

Learn your partners love language and speak it regularly.<\/h3>\n

Everyone has their own way they liked to be love. Taking the time to learn your partners love language will not only bring you closer to your spouse, it will also make them very happy. People communicate love in different ways and neither Is right or wrong. The 5 Love Languages<\/a> by Gary Chapman offers insight on the different types of love languages and tips on how to speak someone\u2019s love language. According to Chapman, there are five ways people express love:
\n\u2022 Quality time
\n\u2022 Receiving gifts
\n\u2022 Words of affirmation
\n\u2022 Acts of service
\n\u2022 Physical touch<\/p>

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When it comes to decoding your spouse\u2019s love language, look at how your partner expresses their love to you. Sexologist Stefani Threadgill, PhD, LMFT and founder of The Sex Therapy Institute says<\/a> \u201c What and how we express love and desire is often what we want reciprocated.\"<\/p>\n

Being loved in the way that you understand and appreciate best is important in any marriage. Learning you and your spouse\u2019s love language will help your marriage overcome any disconnection and bring forth a sense of security within the marriage. It make take some time to recognize and fully understand each other\u2019s love language, so don\u2019t be discouraged if it doesn\u2019t happen overnight. But with practice and patience, the effort you put into it is worth it in the end.<\/p>\n

Dr. Chapman offers a quiz that will help you discover your love language. Take the 5 Love Languages quiz here.<\/a><\/p>\n

Plan some alone time.<\/h3>\n

Take a weekend trip together, go hiking, plan a movie date, the options are endless. Your partner will appreciate the effort you put into doing something nice for them, and the extra quality time will make you both feel good. Take into consideration interests or hobbies and try to plan activities that you both can do together. It doesn\u2019t have to be anything over the top, the main goal is to get your spouse alone and make them feel loved. Planned alone time gives couples an opportunity to communicate and deepen their understanding of each other. It also gives both you and your spouse the chance to unwind and enjoy time with one another.<\/p>

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The bump in the road you may be experiencing in your marriage right now won\u2019t last forever and the fact that you\u2019ve noticed a shift in your marriage actually shows just how committed you are to it. If it gets to a point where you don\u2019t know how to spark that interest back on your own, that\u2019s okay too. Sometimes we don\u2019t always have the answers to fix our problems. Don\u2019t be afraid to reach out and seek counsel whether that is from a professional or a trusted friend.<\/p>\n

Every marriage goes through its ups and downs, the important thing is that when you are in that downward slope you are committed to getting it back on track by putting the time, energy, and love into your marriage.<\/p>\n

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